I’ve been thinking about this a lot recently. As some of you may know I lost my wonderful mum last year and when she died I felt like I would never be able to be happy again. When you have such a life changing event, you tend to reflect a lot too – what does being happy really mean? How do we know we are happy? What does it feel like?
Research has shown that long-term happiness, feeling contented with life, stems from feeling and being in charge of as much of our life as possible. It’s not about smiling all the time nor does it stem from money or health, but a self-belief you are on the road you want to be on. When you lose someone, you feel completely out of control, not only of the world, but of your own life too and you definitely don’t feel like smiling.
When you start drilling down into the things in life that make you happy, it can be quite a hard task. I struggled to write a list and actually remember what used to make me happy. Some days can feel like you are on a crazy hamster wheel with kids, work, chores etc that there isn’t any time to focus on what we want to do; it’s more the things that should be done. Focussing on happiness seems rather decadent and luxurious.
But if it’s one thing that losing my mum has taught me is that we are only here once and we don’t know how long for. What is the point of being alive if we don’t enjoy it, if we are rarely happy and forget the path that we’d like to follow, what we’d like to achieve because we are too busy.
I’m a firm believer that things happen for a reason and starting to work with one of our new clients has really highlighted that. Ali Moore (no relation) is a Personal and Professional Development Coach and Psychotherapist at Be Moore. One of Ali’s current projects, in partnership with the Busy Women Network, is an Empowerment Conference where the theme is happiness! So not only are they focussing on a topic that I have been struggling with recently but it’s also a collaboration with a network that is a great supporter of women, particularly in business. If you read my blog post a few weeks ago I focussed on the importance of collaboration and this partnership pulls everything together perfectly. I am looking forward to the day enormously and having a chance to take some time out, focus on what happiness means to me and be surrounded by a fantastic group of women who all lift each other up.
If you’d like to find out more, I interviewed Ali about the day and what will be going on. I’ve linked the video below.
Live with Ali Moore!
Posted by Moore Time on Thursday, April 19, 2018
Will I be able to complete the glass walk at the end? I don’t know but I’m going to give it a good go to show that I am the only one in charge of my own happiness.
I’ll let you know how I get on, J